“Victorians lingered over death but could not bring themselves to recognize the public existence of sexual relations; in the later part of the twentieth century sex gradually became a subject for open discussion, but death seems more deeply buried than ever. Sex and death: the transitory points in human existence which, in many cultures, are seen as rites of passage of equal importance. Possibly the increasingly negative connotations of sex, accumulating as a result of the AIDS epidemic, may gradually transform our attitude towards the ritual of death. A study of the visual culture of the post-Reformation death ritual shows, however, that this has yet to happen.”
(The Art of Death, Nigel Lllewellyn)
What interests me about this extract is how over time the social taboo has switched from being accepting of death and keeping away from the subject of sex to sex being socially accepted and death being the opposite in the twentieth century. In order to understand this we need to look at how society has changed in order for death to be looked upon with disdain in our culture.
With the development of medicine and hygiene death is left no longer prevalent in every day life. Not only this but faith in organised religion has also dropped in popularity and they no longer have as much control over the general public. Which means that the problems that caused people in victorian times to be so accepting of death have been eliminated (the daily risk of death and the holy belief that you should be aware of your mortality to keep you humble). These things are no longer an issue in our culture and so society has no need to be as accepting of death as it has been in the past and in fact denies it existence almost in the drastic way social behaviour towards death has changed. Instead of clearly speaking about the fact that someone has died we say they have “passed on”, even the word “death” or “died” is completely avoided being said.
I believe this denial stems from a fear of our own mortality, before we had the belief that we would inevitably die however this would lead to an afterlife/ heaven whereas now in a science based society we have created this distance from death in order to protect ourselves from the thought that we are inevitably going to pass away.
This extract ends on a question of wether or not death would become more accepted if sex became less acceptable in our society again and suggests that they are linked. I disagree with the concept behind this, I feel that the two natural human acts are separate in their sociological development and feel that death will never become freely accepted and embraced as a part of life again unless we rewind time and go back before science turned everyone into realists and we all had hope of an afterlife. I myself am a realist (although have some belief that there are wondrous things in this world we may never understand) and rather than give people hope of an afterlife to create acceptance of death I intend to just highlight the fact that death is a natural occurrence, nothing will ever change this and wish to point this out through memento mori or ritualistic props. Death must be accepted in this modern age as something timeless and unchangeable in order for the occurrence to have a healthy reception by the bereaved not shunned and oppressed.